This and That.

This and That.

Not This or That.

It can be both. And often, it is both.

But do we see it that way?

Do you make yourself choose a “side?” A perspective?

Does this “choice” contribute to distress or conflict, whether it’s in a relationship or in the form of anxiety? Does your thinking make life a little harder than it needs to be?

Consider this:

You can ACCEPT something (or someone) and not LIKE it.

You can “have it together” and still feel like you’re “falling apart.”

You can feel lonely and not be alone.

You can be strong and be vulnerable.

You can feel happy and be sad.

You can enjoy your job but still find it stressful.

You can love your partner and not want to continue the relationship.

You can grow and still be healing.

You see…

When we begin to examine and challenge our thinking we create an opportunity for resilience, adaptability, effective communication, and problem-solving. We begin to shift away from rigidity, reactivity, and blame, and we create a space in our lives for balance and wisdom.

Curious? Let’s chat.

Yes, it’s hard. So what?

You read that right. Yes, I said it was hard.

Yes, I said, “so what?" 

Allow me to explain.

Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Just because it’s hard desn’t mean we give ourselves permission to stew in those feelings and find more “reasons” to explain why things aren’t getting better.

Listen. Stop selling yourself short by telling yourself you can’t rise to the occasion!

Too often, during hard times that require change for breakthrough, I have heard someone say, “but it’s hard!!!!” Our words are SO powerful!

And as a therapist, it is my responsibility to say, “yes, it is hard. Are you going to let that stop you?”

Think back to all of the other times you did something really hard, but you DID IT anyway.

That’s what I want to help you remember! Every single time.

Yes, you can, even if it’s HARD!!!

“Go to therapy!”

So I was watching a stand-up routine of a well-known comedian recently. He openly acknowledged going to therapy and sincerely encouraged the entire audience to do the same.

He emphasized how important it is to have someone to talk to. Someone who can listen objectively, without fear of judgment.

And to NOT judge others for going to therapy!!

How refreshing!

Let’s encourage each other to get the support we need.

Let’s stop hiding our pain. Let’s make it SAFE to be human. To ask for help.

To make mistakes. To learn. To grown. To forgive.

Go to therapy. Have a therapist. Have someone to talk to.

Life is hard. And we need each other.